Coping with the Fear of Getting Older

My birthday weekend last year.

Each year around my birthday I start to feel the pressure of getting older, which to some people may sound crazy. People tell me all the time, “Girl, you’re still young. You have all the time in the world.” Well, that’s how I felt when I was younger – like I had all the time in the world to accomplish my biggest dreams, and now that I’m older, with each passing year, I feel myself wanting time to slow down. I mean it feels like yesterday that I was celebrating my sweet 16, and now I’m getting ready to celebrate my 27th birthday, which means I’m 3 years from 30. I’m sure there are some people out there who can relate to how I’m feeling. Turning 30 terrifies me. Mainly because there is still so much I want to do and places I want to see. There are days when I feel like I’m in a race against time, and I’m about to lose.

I think this pressure that I have comes from the fact that I continue to map out my life despite knowing life doesn’t always go as planned. While there’s absolutely nothing wrong with us having a plan for the way we want our lives to go, it does become unhealthy when that’s all we seem to focus on because we forget to simply enjoy life. I talked a lot about coming to terms with my life not going as planned in my most recent Life Update. I won’t get into that too much here, but definitely check out that post if you haven’t already. What I will say is that this journey to grow, heal, and find myself is a process that won’t happen over night. It’s going to take time for me to learn to be patient with myself and learn to love myself at whatever stage of my life I’m in.

If I’m honest, learning this lesson and getting to a healthy place mentally and emotionally has been extremely difficult. I’ve just recently realized that I can’t overcome this emotional baggage on my own, and that’s okay. I think it’s important for us to realize when we need help, especially those of us who carry the weight of the world on our shoulders. It’s easy for us to forget that we sometimes need help too. I’m someone who has spent a lot of my life helping others – family, friends, significant others, even people I barely know. I’ve always been all ears for anyone who needs it, but I haven’t always had that in return. I don’t know if it’s because people assume I have it altogether or what, but that’s one of the main reasons I’m so thankful for my blog. I love knowing there are people out there (most of whom I don’t know on a personal level) who can relate to me and who are willing to listen.

All that said, I want you all to know that I’ve taken a huge step forward in my life and decided to get professional help with my struggles. I actually just booked a free consultation with Sean Wheeler from Pure Hypnosis to see how he can help me overcome my fears of getting older and not living out my dreams in time.

Wheeler is Atlanta, Georgia’s best-known and best-reviewed hypnotherapist. He specializes in Atlanta hypnosis for weight loss, smoking cessation, relationships, fears and phobias, and other issues that affect your daily life. I highly recommend you visit the website to learn more about Wheeler and to book your free consultation today if you’re someone struggling to cope with fear or any other issue affecting your mental, emotional, and/or physical health.

Before I go, I want to quickly share a few tips that I’ll be trying my best to practice throughout this journey. Hopefully these tips can help you too if you’re struggling:

1. Give myself grace – I have to learn to appreciate myself for how far I’ve come instead of only focusing on how far I have left to go. I’ve learned and grown so much these last few years. I’ve accomplished and overcome a lot. For example, in 2018 I overcame my driving anxiety due to bad car accident that left me afraid to drive for 5 years. I have more reasons to be thankful than I sometimes realize.

2. Accept that good things take time – I have to also learn to stop putting so much pressure on myself to get things accomplished by a certain age or time. I remember being so determined to move out of my parents’ house by age 25. Even though I was able to make it happen that doesn’t mean everything will always go as planned. I have to accept that I will accomplish my goals when the time is right and when God sees fit. I’m learning that patience is a virtue (and it’s not an easy lesson to learn).

3. Focus on enjoying life – I sometimes get so caught up in trying to reach the next level or accomplishing a certain goal that I forget to enjoy life as it is. Life is so short, and I think it’s important that we enjoy it while we can.

Speaking of enjoying life, I’m going to make sure I enjoy my 27th birthday next Tuesday regardless of how I’m feeling, and I’m going to do everything I possibly can to make sure it’s one I never forget.

I hope you all enjoyed this post. Comment below and let me know if you’ve ever done hypnotherapy and what your experience was like.

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I hope to see you back here next time.

Xx,

Kristen

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